Sociopaths are perhaps the most insidious of predators because their grooming involves sophisticated mind games that can target their victim’s sense of self and reduce them to a state of mental despair and desperation. Above all, the sociopath will often present as an interesting person with immense social skills and charm, but nothing could be further from the truth, sociopaths can be very dangerous.
The sociopath operates on facile and superficial charm. Sociopaths are highly manipulative con artists. They pretend to recognize the rights of others, but in effect they never do. They are self-serving and view their behavior as normal and acceptable.
Sociopaths are often romantics who draw their victims into their web with beautiful and poetic words, but beneath the feigned beauty, sociopaths are hostile and controlling. They view their victims as merely an instrument of domination and self-gratification. Ultimately the sociopath will act to humiliate their victim.
How to spot a sociopath.
The sociopath has a grandiose sense of self-importance. They have a sense of entitlement and ownership over other individuals and they do not like to be challenged.
Sociopaths engage in pathological lying and can often believe their own lies and/or they will refer to them as a plan or a vision. It is almost impossible to tell when a sociopath is lying because they do it on a consistent basis and they get caught up in the falsity of their own complex drama. These people are so convincing they can pass a lie detector test because they truly believe in their own powers and narratives.
The sociopath will have no shame or remorse. Inside the head of the sociopath there is a deep-seated rage, which is split off from the normal personality and repressed. The sociopath is an opportunist and will choose victims very carefully. With this in mind, the sociopath will not shy away from the well educated or successful person, rather, they will be attracted to them because the challenge and self-gratification is much greater.
The sociopath will always see the ends as justifying the means, they do not give up easily and they allow nothing to stand in their way. They can be very clever and persuasive. Once hooked, the victim finds it hard to escape.
The sociopath is very good at feigning emotions. They can show compassion and kindness and will frequently use love as an ulterior motive. They will make what appear to be sound and sincere promises, but on the inside, the sociopath is cold and calculating and they see no wrong in misleading their victims, in fact they delight in it because their victim has become their property.
Importantly, the sociopath has no capacity for love. Proclamations of love and trust are merely the tools the sociopath uses for stimulation. There is nothing genuine about the sociopath because they have lost touch with what it means to be a loving and caring human. Sociopaths are callous and feign empathy. They have only contempt for their victims and have no understanding of the pain they cause. Their aim is only to enslave their victim. From this enslavement the sociopath gains psychological and/or sexual reward, which in turn becomes an addiction.
Sociopaths find normal life boring so they tend to live on the edge. They can be both versatile and criminal, they are generally promiscuous and like taking risks. Sociopaths have poor behavior controls and can flip from being the nice person to being the dangerous one. Above all, sociopaths are very good at gaining your trust and attention and it becomes easy to make excuses for them.
The sociopath has no sense of boundaries and no concern for others. They are irresponsible, unreliable and they are oblivious to the damage they cause.
The sociopath has generally had a painful history of abuse, displacement or insecurity, which over time causes them to move away from realism. They can become authoritarian, secretive and paranoid and they have contempt for anyone who tries to help them.
Sociopaths rarely have to confront the law because they seek out the environments in which they can operate safely without detection. Sociopaths are hard to spot because they are generally very conventional.
The sociopath needs their victim’s love, respect and gratitude and will work hard to secure it, but always with despotic control. They groom their victims to satisfy their extreme narcissism and they will often use that energy to rise to other forms of personal power and achievement.
Finally, the sociopath operates with impunity on the social media platforms where there are few methods of detection and almost no consequences for the perpetrator of sociopathic crimes.
Further, identifying a sociopath is not easy. One needs to be vigilant and in tune with one’s instincts. If something does not feel right, then it probably is not right and the best advice would be to end the connection immediately.